After a year of being physically separated from my husband and 2 years of my marriage being over, I have just recently begun dating again. I have mixed emotions about this of which I’m sure I’ll blog about sometime. But what the recent dating has done most for me is bring the question [...]
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September 9, 2009
Caustic Tongue
I want you to think back to a time where you got into a nasty argument with someone. You know, one of those arguments that completely ended a relationship and you never spoke to the person again. Even going back to thinking about it right now you can feel your neck starting to [...]
August 15, 2009
I Walk Deep Into Darkness So I May Know Light
I know I haven’t blogged in awhile. There’s been a lot going on. But I feel the need to write tonight, so here you go. I promise to keep writing more diligently going forward
Cue the music people… we’re going deep!! Some of you may need an oxygen mask [...]
February 11, 2009
1 out of 3 Men Cheat – Here’s why…
First, I want to say that this post is not about bashing men. I truly believe that in any relationship (marriage, friendship or otherwise) both parties are responsible for the breakdown of that relationship. The purpose of this post is to empower women to have a better understanding of men and to empower both men and women on how to improve their relationships.
Today, Oprah had an interesting guest named M.Gary Neuman. He has been a marriage counselor for 20 years and is the author of The Truth about Cheating: Why Men Stray and What You Can Do to Prevent It
In his reviews of the couples he has counseled in the last 20 years, M.Gary Neuman has written this new book to finally reveal why it is that men cheat. Below are some excerpts of the show and what Gary had to say…
92% of men who cheat say it’s not about the sex. They cheat because they need more attention, feel unappreciated in the marriage and want to be admired. They also feel a lack of thoughtful gestures towards them in the marriage.
Men are emotional beings, even though they don’t show it to you or talk about it. They just express it differently. Especially once the children come into the picture, they feel that they are no longer part of the picture.
12% of men are going to cheat no matter what. These type of men have no remorse over cheating and will even be cavalier about it. You shouldn’t even waste your time on these men.
Men love to win. If they are in a relationship where they feel they just can’t win, they will cheat. They need to be made to feel like they are appreciated and are winners… just as women like to be appreciated.
Only 7% of men told their wives without being asked about the affair.
88% of men said the other woman was not better looking than their wives, nor did they have better morals. Which shows it’s not about the sex. It’s more about emotions and how the other woman makes him feel.
There comes a point where if a woman suspects that her husband is cheating, it’s time to address the marriage and see why they are both unhappy and fix the marriage.
Women find that the lying is the most hurtful part of their husbands having an affair.
Men also like to be able fix a situation. If they can’t fix something, they will feel insecure.
Best idea for men is to come clean as soon as possible. Even better for men, be honest with your wife when you are just starting to have a feelings for another woman. Sit down with your wife and have a discussion that obviously something is wrong in the marriage.
Signs that men are cheating or are about to cheat:
Most women will never know that their husband is cheating… because 55% of men will never tell.
The number one complaint cheating men have about sex with their wives is frequency. It has nothing to do with type of sex. A man wanting to be with you is his way of expressing love, compassion, etc. When a woman initiates sex with her husband, they also perceive that as you wanting to be with them and expressing your love for them.
To get this book for FREE today (in the next 24 hours ONLY) you can download it at www.Oprah.com
This book is only FREE from Oprah IN THE NEXT 24 HOURS. So you must go there today and download!! All women should get this book in their hands and read it.
Otherwise, you can order a copy of the book by clicking on this link The Truth about Cheating: Why Men Stray and What You Can Do to Prevent It
Blessings,
Tula Rainwater
http://tularainwater.com
